The Self-Love Book Club Reads Red, Hot, & Holy: Week 4

Hello self-love rockstars!

First, let's take a little survey...

What should we read in November?

Leave your vote in the comments and I'll announce the most popular choice on October 1st.


The Joy of Less by Francine Jay (recommended by Holly) Having less stuff is the key to happiness.

Do you ever feel overwhelmed, instead of overjoyed, by all your possessions? Do you secretly wish a gale force wind would blow the clutter from your home? If so, it's time to simplify your life!

The Joy of Less is a fun, lighthearted guide to minimalist living. Part One provides an inspirational pep talk on the joys and rewards of paring down. Part Two presents the STREAMLINE method: ten easy steps to rid your house of clutter. Part Three goes room by room, outlining specific ways to tackle each one. Part Four helps you trim your to-do list and free up your time, and explains how saving space in your closets can save the planet.

Ready to sweep away the clutter? Just open this book, and you'll be on your way to a simpler, more streamlined, and more serene life.


Be Happy by Robert Holden (recommended by my mom) Happiness is a spiritual path. The more you learn about true happiness, the more you discover the truth of who you are, what is important, and what your life is for.'' 'Be Happy!' is the follow-up to Robert Holden's best-selling 'Happiness NOW!' In this book, Robert gives you a front-row seat on his 8-week happiness program - famously tested by independent scientists for the BBC-TV documentary called 'How to Be Happy.'

Step-by-step he introduces you to a set of proven techniques, principles, meditations, and insights that will help you be happy now! Key lessons include: Follow Your Joy - stop chasing happiness and start enjoying your life as it happens. The Happiness Contract - undo mental and emotional blocks to happiness and success. The Receiving Meditation - increase your natural capacity for happiness and abundance. The Forgiveness Practice - give up all hopes for a better past and 'be happy now'. The Gift of Happiness - use the power of happiness to bless your life and benefit others. ''This happiness training not only changes the way you feel; it actually changes the way your brain functions.


Daring Greatly by Brene Brown (recommended by me) Every day we experience the uncertainty, risks, and emotional exposure that define what it means to be vulnerable, or to dare greatly. Whether the arena is a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation, we must find the courage to walk into vulnerability and engage with our whole hearts.

In Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability. Based on twelve years of research, she argues that vulnerability is not weakness, but rather our clearest path to courage, engagement, and meaningful connection. The book that Dr. Brown’s many fans have been waiting for, Daring Greatly will spark a new spirit of truth—and trust—in our organizations, families, schools, and communities.

Now, onto chapters 14-19 of Red, Hot, and Holy.

What did you think? Here are a few questions to think about...

Reflection Questions // Did you take up last week's self-love homework? What did you do to declutter your life? // Perhaps the most "out there" chapter so far, what did you make of Sera's discussion of the relationship between Jesus and Mary Magdelane in Chapter 13?//Sera says, "Dragons rip open our wounds and make a mess. On Purpose. Yes, dragons are a terrifying but necessary, sacred set-up, because they demand courageous action. They test us, with unrelenting fire, to find out if we've actually metabolized all the profound realizations we've acquired thus far on our soul's journey." What dragons are you facing on your own path? What are they teaching you? What can you do to face them most bravely?

I'll be sharing my thoughts in the comments and I hope you will too!

Self Love Homework #4 In Chapter 14, Sera created " the red tent" - a sacred space to commune with the divine and get back in touch with her most authentic self. Whether you consider yourself on a spiritual path or not, spend some time this week carving out a space for yourself, somewhere that you can be alone and do your own self-love work, whatever that looks like for you. If you're short on physical space, you might want to read Veronica Varlow's article on creating a portable altar. That way, you can pull it out whenever you need it even if you can't devote your whole apartment or even a room to your sacred space.

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