You Can't Do It All! (& Why I Don't Want To)

Today I want to share with you one simple yet empowering truth:

You don't have to do it all.

In fact, your power lies in focusing on one thing at a time.

I'm obsessed with reading self-help books. With learning personal development techniques and adding to my self-love toolbox.

I love planning the perfect morning routine. But the more I learn, the more I feel like I have to do: a glass of warm lemon, 20 minutes of meditation, yoga, high intensity exercise, morning pages, oil pulling, a green smoothie, setting my intentions, a handful of supplements, visualizing my day ...the list goes on and on, and suddenly I'd need until noon to get through it all. That's just not practical, is it?

And it doesn't just apply to mornings.

Every book, every blog post, every course, and every podcast seems to be piling more on my self-care plate. I'm committed to loving myself so shouldn't I be doing this, too?

There's always another book to read. Course to take. Guru to follow. How are we meant to implement it all?

So we don't. Overwhelm creeps in and we keep trucking on as we always have, whatever that looks like.

We know what will improve our lives. But we remain where we are.

And if I'm honest, at its essence, we're all saying the same thing: all of us coaches and healers and mystics (Jayne had some really wonderful things to say on this subject).

We might wrap it in different packages. And we each have our own methods to recommend. Additional value to offer.

But the place we're trying to lead you is the same: a place of radical self-acceptance and living from a deep connection to your truth.

So don't let the sheer mountain of information paralyze you.

Because here's the thing:

You can't do it all. But you can do something.

So pick one thing. Anything. And practice it consistently. Call it an experiment. Try it for a week, 3 weeks, 40 days. And see how it changes you.

Later you can add in something new or abandon the first thing completely.

It doesn't mean you have to give up self-help books and courses and podcasts entirely. Just focus on tipping the balance. Focus on living more than you're consuming.

Every once in a while, turn off the noise completely. Be still with yourself and ask what you should experiment with next. What you really need and desire. Be really quiet and just listen. An answer will come, I promise. Try that thing. Even if it's not the thing that every Facebook ad and bestselling book is pushing you to do.

You know what you need. Whatever you choose, it will be the right thing for right now.

Our rituals and routines naturally shift over time (Nicole and I had a wonderful conversation about this. And to learn about how, as women, we are cyclical and our needs change from day to day, I highly recommend listening to this interview with Lisa.)

There's power in doing things consistently but not when the urge for perfect consistency stops us from taking action on anything. Or when it comes at the expense of what we need right now. 

Some days you might want to sit in meditation for an hour while on others your mindfulness practice might look like slowly eating a peach and delighting in how the juice dribbles down your chin. There will be times when high intensity work outs fill you up with a natural high, and others when our yoga practice looks like sitting in child's pose for 30 minutes because that's what your body is craving.

After years of chasing the perfect routine and often feeling like a failure, I've realized that that I CAN'T do it all. And more powerfully, that I don't want to. Not if I want my life to be the mess of balance and contradictions that I desire.

Because as much as I want yoga and deep meditation and and green juice and hours spent journalling, I also want hot sex and good food and pink lipstick and too much champagne.

And I've learned that I design my best life by experimenting and slowly adding in the things that feel right to me right now and letting go of the things that don't.

It's not as sexy or alluring as a 180-degree transformation. But I can't do it all. I don't have to. I don't WANT to.

I want to carefully and intentionally cultivate the things I want in my life.

And that starts with picking one thing. Anything. I can throw it out later but for now, I'm experimenting.  It might become a deeply engrained habit or you might never do it again after this week. The trick is to dive in and start getting messy with life. Cultivate new experiences. See how they feel. Don't get hung up on the "shoulds." There's so much to be gained from just giving it ago.

So there are no worksheets or checklists or downloads today. Just a mission for the week, should you choose to accept it: choose the one tool, practice, or ritual that you're going to implement this week. Have you been meaning to keep a gratitude journal, start meditating, or move your body everyday? Focus on just one and try it everyday. Don't worry about adding anything else in or transforming another area of your life. Let everything else run on autopilot. It's just an experiment, after all.

If you're in, share your experiment in the comments and I will too!