TGGC #85: Balancing creativity alongside your day job with Kait Fowlie.

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Kait Fowlie is a Toronto-based writer who is interested in wellness and the writing process.

Kait and I talk about balancing a day job and creative projects without working all the time, diving deep into journaling as tool for healing, and using archetypes to understand your present mindset and situation.

 

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Balancing a day job and creative projects without working all of the time
  • Kait’s decision to transition into a day job after being a freelancer
  • Making space for her writing during the evenings
  • Kait’s journey with journalling
  • Using journalling to understand where you are in your life
  • Tips for going deeper with your journalling practice
  • Managing anxiety with journalling
  • Using archetypes to understand your present mindset and situation

 

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TGGC #84: Redefining cool and embodying empathy with Kerrin Smith

Kerrin Smith is the founder of Cool & Thoughtful, an initiative to shift social values from hyper-individualism to empathy by redefining cool as generosity rather than rebellion.

I’m completely obsesesed with this concept!

We had the most amazing conversation with Kerrin about how meditation can help us process our feelings, blending action & faith when it comes to reaching our goals, and what it looks like (and feels like) to redefine cool for ourselves.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Kerrin’s exploration of interfaith work and how it led to her meditation practice
  • How meditation can help us feel, process, and learn from our emotions
  • Blending action and faith when it comes to reaching our goals
  • Where Kerrin draws her faith from
  • The Cool & Thoughtful project she has created aimed at imagining what the world look like if we understood "cool" as generosity instead of rebellion
  • Kerrin’s personal journey from the traditional definition of cool to redefining it as empathetic and thoughtful
  • Practices for exploring the idea of cool and thoughtful in your own life

 

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TGGC #83: FAQ: finding your girl gang, managing your anxiety, & taking a break from writing

Today’s episode is a special FAQ episode with me again! It’s the last episode before I go on maternity leave but don’t worry - I’ve pre-recorded interviews and we’ll just be switching to publishing them every other week rather than weekly. I’ll be back to recording in the autumn. I’m talking about finding your girl gang, managing your anxiety, moving to a new city, why I haven’t been writing for the past month, what I’ve learned from pregnancy and a lot more.

In this episode I talk about:

  • The biggest lesson pregnancy has taught me
  • My experience of body image during pregnancy and how I’ve coped with body image issues in the past
  • Find community in my new city
  • Managing the stress of moving
  • Taking your sense of home with you wherever you go
  • The practices I find the most grounding when I’m overwhelmed
  • How I deal with anxiety
  • The process of creating community online
  • Putting yourself out there, even when you’re scared shitless and don’t feel ready
  • Why I haven’t been writing for the past month
  • Meeting new friends and finding your girl gang
  • Whether I think it’s appropriate to call grown women “girls”
  • Finding a balance between being ambitious and being gentle with yourself
  • Creating intimacy with myself and with my husband
  • The thing I’ve found most surprising about pregnancy
  • What I feel I need as I step into motherhood

Thank you so much to everyone who sent in questions; I had so much fun answering them!

 

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TGGC #82: The healing power of playing with your inner child with Laura Jane Williams

Laura Jane Williams is the author of Amazon bestseller BECOMING: Sex, Second Chances, and Figuring Out Who the Hell I Am and forthcoming ICE CREAM FOR BREAKFAST: How rediscovering your inner child can make you calmer, happier, and solve your bullsh*t adult problems.

She was Grazia's "single girl" columnist until February 2017, is Marie Claire's #BREAKFREE from fear ambassador, and has written about dating, lust and her feelings everywhere from The Guardian to RED to Buzzfeed, The Metro, Stylist, The Telegraph and more. She blogs at Superlatively Rude and is currently writing her third book.

This is her second time on the podcast and in this episode we discuss her experience with burn out, why she decided to take a break from writing to become a nanny, the experience of writing her second book, and her considerations around having a child on her own.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How Laura prioritizes and chunks down passion projects so that they actually get done
  • Recognizing the early signs of burn out
  • The non-linear process of healing from burn out
  • Laura’s 3 rules to Tinder dating and how she ended up with a national dating column
  • Considering the option of becoming a single mother
  • How Laura’s experience nannying three girls turned into the subject for her new book
  • The difference between writing her first and second books
  • The tiny changes Laura has made to her life after experiencing burn out

 

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TGGC #81: Combining magic with business and finding your flow with Chris-Anne Donnelly

Chris-Anne Donnelly spends her days creating sacred space and road-mapping potential, branding soulpreneurs and mixing an intoxicating blend of intuition and strategy.

She's also the genius behind the Sacred Creator oracle deck - a favourite spiritual, entrepreneurial tool of mine. 

We had a beautiful conversation about setting firm boundaries around our time, combining work and magic, finding the flow within your day, and the evolution of her manifestation process.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Setting firm boundaries around our time
  • Chris Anne’s journey to finding spirituality and starting her business
  • Why she doesn’t always use contracts in her business
  • Combining business/work and magic
  • Getting out of the hustle
  • Finding flow within your work day
  • Her process of creating the Sacred Creator Oracle deck
  • Working through “second novel syndrome” to get back into your creative flow
  • Chris Anne’s manifestation process

 

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TGGC #80: Taking a humane approach to personal growth with Sarah Kathleen Peck

Sarah Kathleen Peck is a writer, teacher, and connector. She writes a popular newsletter about about personal development, behavior change, and leadership.

She's currently writing a book called Startup Pregnant about how working in tech while pregnant opened her eyes to new ways of doing message.

Sarah and I had a conversation that left me absolutely buzzing. We share some real talk about pregnancy and early motherhood. We also chat about the need for multiple ways of showing up for work and life - rather than pushing all of the time, the need to be more intentional and precise with our language and commitments, and grieving even positive life changes.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How having a child forced Sarah into a more structured routine
  • Taking a sane, humane approach to changing patterns and forming habits
  • Grieving happy life changes
  • The monthly report Sarah creates for herself and how she chooses her monthly mantra 
  • Using doodling as a meditation practice and finding other ways to quiet the mind
  • Startup Pregnant, the book Sarah is currently writing
  • The need for multiple ways of showing up for work and life - rather than pushing all of the time
  • The need to be more intentional and precise with our language and commitments
  • The difference between “nice” and “kind"

 

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TGGC #79: Staying politically connected with Amanda Duarte

Amanda Duarte is the creator and host of the monthly show Dead Darlings, in which artists present work they’ve had to cut or abandon, at Judson Memorial Church in New York City.

She co-created the meme and movement #PussyGrabsBack, is the co-host of the new Cafe.com podcast Girl Friday, and is a regular at comedy and storytelling events throughout NYC.

Amanda and I do a fair bit of ranting about American politics in this episode but we also talk about what she’s learned about the creative process from hosting Dead Darlings, how we can take tangible action towards political change, and turning off the news as an act of self-care.

In this episode we talk about:

  • The Dead Darlings show that Amanda hosts, in which artists present work they’ve had to cut or abandon
  • What she has learned about the creative process as a result of the show
  • The #NotMyPresident hashtag
  • The tangible ways that we can stand up politically and help to create change
  • Lots of ranting about the Trump administration
  • Turning off the news and social media sometimes in order to recharge

 

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TGGC #78: Getting clear on your values and living in integrity with Jenni Brown

Jenni Brown is a Type A Creative and a Co-Founder of Prim'd Marketing, where she's the resident creative-brain/web & branding strategist helping business owners look and sound like the best version of themselves.

Jenni and I are going to be diving deep into the importance of living in integrity with our values, how to get really clear on what our values are, and staying in touch with them on a day-to-day basis.

 

In this episode we discuss:

  • Creating white space and consciously transitioning from one phase of your day to the next
  • Our personal stories of navigating burn out and uncoupling our self-worth from our productivity
  • Defining what values even are and how they’re different from goals
  • Jenni’s journey to getting in touch with her values
  • Four simple ways to get clear on what your values are
  • Looking for the personal indicators or warning signs that pop up when you’re out of touch with your values
  • Creating goals and designing your life to match your values

 

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TGGC #77: Debunking sex myths and considering activism as self-care with Rachel Hills.

Rachel Hills is a New York-based journalist, activist, and author of THE SEX MYTH.

She is interested in the space where the personal meets the political, or what she calls "the politics of everyday life.”

We’re talking about the toxic myths that are perpetuated about sex and sexuality, not judging ourselves based on our sex drive, being more open about sex, and activism as a form of self-care.

 

 

 

In this episode we discuss:

  • The toxic messages about sex that so many of us have internalized
  • Rachel’s journey of sexual healing and decoupling herself from these toxic beliefs about sex
  • Breaking down toxic sexual messages in our day-to-day lives
  • Not judging our relationships by our sex lives or ourselves by our sex drives
  • How feminism and activism can be tools for self-care

 

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TGGC #76: How to bullet journal for productivity and personal growth with Kara Benz of Boho Berry

Kara Benz is the artist and author behind Boho Berry, where she inspires her readers to lead a more centered, fulfilled, and inspired life.

Kara also runs a successful sticker shop on Etsy - Boho Berry Paperie, and is currently creating her very first handwriting course. 

We sat down to talk all things bullet journal! What the system is, her daily routine with her bullet journal, how to start one - even if you’re not artistic, and how her life has changed as a result of this system.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • The “miracle morning” routine that Kara starts everyday with and her tips for creating time for a morning practice
  • What a bullet journal is
  • Kara’s journey with bullet journalling
  • Her daily bullet journal routine
  • Balancing the creative side of bullet journalling with making it an efficient productivity tool
  • Using a habit tracker to create and monitor habits - and how to avoid beating yourself up on the days you don’t do them
  • Using a time tracker to get a clear picture of how you spend your time and evaluate whether you’re happy with it
  • The biggest improvement she’s seen in her life as a result of bullet journalling
  • How to get started with bullet journalling if you feel intimidated by the system
  • A day in the life of her Etsy business
  • Her love of all things stationery

 

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TGGC #75: Doing the work is the "secret" of being creative with Mara Wilson

You might recognize Mara Wilson from her roles in Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire, and Miracle on 34th Street.

She’s recently released a memoir called Where Am I Now? and we sat down to chat about the creative process, managing mental health issues, and our obsessions with teen dramas.

 

 

 

 

 

 

In this episode we talk about

  • The freelance work and creative projects that Mara is spending her time on these days
  • Why voiceover acting is the only kind of acting she wants to do these days
  • What Mara’s creative process looks like
  • How she decided what was going to go into her book
  • The evolution of her love of storytelling and why telling our stories is so important
  • How the media that we consume impacts how we think and express ourselves
  • What makes a great story and how to tell one in conversation
  • The difference between a story and an anecdote
  • Reconstructing your memories in order to write memoir
  • Mara’s journey to being diagnosed with OCD at age 12 and how her diagnosis impacted how she felt about herself
  • Removing the expectation that we need to be happy all of the time
  • How Mara is managing her anxiety within the difficult political climate

 

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TGGC #74: Following your flow and rekindling your creativity with Claire Baker

Claire Baker is an amazing women's coach and writer. Through her popular blog, eBooks, online courses and live workshops, Claire teaches self-care, creative rekindling, how to live life aligned with your menstrual cycle and being kind to yourself and the world.

Claire believes in less stress and more flow and knows that working with our natural rhythms is 'the missing key' when it comes to women's wellness. She’ll have you throwing out the scales, booking the flight, launching the blog – and falling back in love with your life.

We talked about all of those things, as well as her new course Flow. What I think really sets this episode apart is we dive into how you can honour your natural cycles even if you don’t menstruate or if you’re a busy mom or have a 9-5 job and your time isn’t entirely your own. Clare has incredible advice for honouring your own rhythms regardless of your personal situation.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • The power of moving first thing in the morning
  • How Claire’s illness changed her relationship with her health and her body and eventually led to her work as a women's coach
  • Traditional Chinese Medicine practices that she used to build vitality in the body after coming off the contraceptive pill
  • Claire’s decision to move to London and what her experience of moving across the world has been life
  • The journalling practice that Claire uses in sync with her menstrual cycle
  • Following the flow of your menstrual cycle within the constraints of a day job
  • The blocks Claire sees women experiencing around their creativity
  • The first steps to rekindling your creativity

 

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TGGC #73: Cultivating slowness and a desire for less with Erin Loechner

Today’s interview is with Erin Loechner. Erin has been blogging and speaking for more than a decade on her website Design for Mankind and she’s now released an incredible book called Chasing Slow.

Now nestled in a Midwestern town, Erin, her husband, and their toddler strive for less in most areas except three: joy, grace, and goat cheese.

Erin is one of the friendliest, most open people I’ve ever spoken to and I loved chatting with her about minimalism, slowing down our lives, finding our golden hours in order to be more creative, and what she learned about herself from writing her new book.

 

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Erin’s routine of getting up at 2am to write and work
  • Finding your “golden hours” to do your best creative work
  • Her journey of blogging over the past 16 years
  • How Erin’s views on minimalism and slow living have changed over time
  • Navigating the tension that occurs when your family members hold different beliefs than you
  • Approaching parenting as a minimalist
  • Transitioning back to work after having a baby
  • The realizations and lessons Erin learned from writing her book

 

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TGGC #72: FAQ: Spirituality, rituals, time management, writing, & moving to a new city

In this special FAQ episode I answer your questions about anything and everything! The topics range from spirituality, rituals, and routines to writing, activism, and moving to a new city. I hope it will give you a chance to get to know me better and learn something new in the process.

 

In this episode I talk about:

  • The decision process we went through to move from London to Liverpool
  • Rituals that have been game changers for me
  • Putting the sacred back in Sunday and treating it as a time for spiritual connection and self-care
  • My best time management tips
  • My writing routine
  • My activism past and present and how that fits into my personal development and self-care
  • How I go about creating an altar in my home
  • Creating boundaries around work, life, and home
  • Clearing the path for opportunities
  • How pregnancy has impacted my work as an entrepreneur
  • Balancing the spiritual and strategic sides of my business
  • How I take care of myself mentally while running a business

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TGGC #71: Recognizing your intuitive voice & getting clear on what you believe with Vix Maxwell

Vix Maxwell is an intuitive Tarot + Angel Card Reader + Fairyologist certified by Doreen Virtue, Holy Fire Reiki Level II, Celtic Reiki Mystic Master, Headmistress of Woo Woo School and the creator of New Age Hipster. Phew - that’s a mouthful, innit? That’s because Vix is one awesome lady! Sent here on a divine mission to kick open the musty old spiritual wardrobe, she is all about bringing the new age into the now by making spirituality accessible to whoever wants in! We have a conversation where we embrace all things woo and talk about stuff like learning to recognize our intuitive voice and getting clear on our own spiritual beliefs.

Vix Maxwell is an intuitive Tarot + Angel Card Reader + Fairyologist certified by Doreen Virtue, Holy Fire Reiki Level II, Celtic Reiki Mystic Master, Headmistress of Woo Woo School and the creator of New Age Hipster.

Phew - that’s a mouthful, innit? That’s because Vix is one awesome lady!

Sent here on a divine mission to kick open the musty old spiritual wardrobe, she is all about bringing the new age into the now by making spirituality accessible to whoever wants in!

We had a conversation where we embraced all things woo and talk about stuff like learning to recognize our intuitive voice and getting clear on our own spiritual beliefs.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Becoming a morning person
  • Calling on your angels and guides for spiritual guidance
  • Distinguishing between intuitive guidance and your own thoughts
  • Learning from our fear
  • Vix’s journey of building her spiritual business
  • What it means to be a fairyologist and how Vix tunes into fairy energy
  • Wading through spiritual information and getting really clear on what you believe

 

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TGGC #70: Creative cycles and using our voices with Lucy Pearce

Lucy Pearce is the author of numerous life-changing non-fiction books for women, including: Burning Woman, The Rainbow Way and Moon Time, all #1 Amazon bestsellers.

Lucy’s work is dedicated to supporting women’s empowered, embodied expression.

She is also the founder of Womancraft Publishing.

Lucy and I had a really deep conversation about creative cycles, living in tune with our own rhythms, the beauty of working from bed, the difficulty of expressing our voices as women, and what it means to be a burning woman.

 

 

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Why Lucy loves working from bed and how doing so requires a mindset shift from both of us after hearing so much about productivity and “proper” work spaces
  • The links between our creativity and the menstrual cycles
  • The overarching creative and energetic cycles of pregnancy
  • Simple ways to begin living in tune with our own rhythms
  • How difficult it can be as women to express our voices
  • The conflicts that sometimes occur as we try to create more inclusive conversations while staying true to our own experiences
  • What it means to be a "burning woman" 

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TGGC #69: Navigating authenticity versus curation online with Sara Tasker

Sara Tasker runs the blog Me and Orla. She's a stylist, photographer, writer, and Instagram coach.

We're talking about finding community (and making friends! online), curation vs. authenticity online, how Instagram has changed her life, and how she balances motherhood and chronic illness with her work. 

 

 

 

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • How sometimes the creative work we’re most critical of ends up being the work we love most later on
  • Sara’s journey to creating a career on Instagram
  • Navigating the element of curation on Instagram with the desire to connect and share our real lives
  • Setting boundaries about what we share online
  • Dealing with negativity and judgment online
  • How Sara’s life has changed due to Instagram
  • Her journey of developing an eye as a photographer 
  • Tips for finding your own style
  • Advice for finding true connection and being part of a community on Instagram
  • After years of experiencing fatigue and believing she was just "lazy", Sara’s journey to being diagnosed with chronic illness
  • How she's accommodate the fatigue with running her business
  • Juggling self-employment and motherhood

 

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TGGC #68: The truth about grief with Kristen Rogers Anderson

TGGC #68: The truth about grief with Kristen Rogers Anderson

Kristen Rogers Anderson wants to help people feel good by entertaining them and inspiring "me too!" moments. She's the co-host of the Book Club Schmook Club podcast and her true crime YouTube show, Guilty Party, launches this month.

Kristen recently wrote an article about the positive sides of grief that she unexpectedly experienced after her family suffered a horrible tragedy. We talked about dealing with death, the importance of allowing yourself to grieve - and what that means, and how this experience helped her grow as a person.

We also riffed on our love of bullet journaling, Kristen's journey with personal development, and the routines she's developed to take care of herself.

In this episode we talk about:

  • What Kristen’s doing to balance her many creative projects with her job
  • How we’re both using our bullet journals
  • Kristen’s journey with personal development and more intentionally designing her life
  • The tragedy that her family suffered over the summer and her experience of grief
  • Feeling and expressing your feelings through grief
  • What her loved ones did that helped her feel loved and supported throughout the grieving process
  • The unexpected benefits that Kristen found in her grief 

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TGGC #67: Finding your voice as an artist & experiencing a deeper sexuality with Alexandra Roxo

Alexandra Roxo is an intuitive coach, writer, filmmaker and public speaker living in LA.

Her film work has garnered millions of hits online and been featured in press from Vogue to the Times.

She recently co-founded Moon Club a monthly subscription based mentorship and coaching program.

In this episode we talk about her journey to finding her voice as an artist, translating our feelings of overwhelm into activism, and balancing our spiritual and sexual lives.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • Alexandra’s journey of self-exploration and being an artist
  • The internal and external resistance she’s faced for exploring taboo topics in her work
  • Understanding your greatest human needs
  • Balancing our spiritual and sexual lives and how Alexandra is opening up this conversation through the Holy F*ck Salons
  • Finding out what makes us feel sexy, turned on, and loved
  • Seeking ourselves on a deep level rather than letting other people tell us what to do or what’s true
  • Avoiding spiritual bypassing by feeling out feelings
  • Translating our feelings of overwhelm about the world into activism
  • Ways to get or stay grounded
  • Alexandra’s rituals for releasing 2016 and planning for 2017

 

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TGGC #66: Navigating chronic illness and building a business sustainably with Kelsey Cronkhite

Kelsey Cronkhite is the Founder and Creative Director at Pinegate Road — a brand strategy agency that specializes in helping creative businesses find their foundation, and build that out beautifully in all that they do. She personally loves bringing the hand-made and hand-lettered into the digital environment. From hand-lettering on websites, to torn paper and shadows, she believes that bringing more of what we love in our tangible lives to our online brands helps us connect with our audience in a deeper more meaningful way.

Kelsey and I talked about her journey to being diagnosed with endometriosis, how it changed her life, managing her life with chronic pain, and how she sustainably built up her business over 5 years before quitting her day job.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Kelsey’s journey to being diagnosed with endometriosis and how her life changed as a result
  • What it was like being told that if she wanted to have kids, she needed to start trying right away
  • Deciding to get surgery to treat her endometriosis
  • The systems she put into place to ensure she could still complete client work on time while in pain
  • The advice she’d offer anyone who is facing an endometriosis diagnosis
  • How to build strong foundations as a freelancer before quitting your day job

 

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Kelsey's advice when facing an endometriosis diagnosis:

1: it's great you already have doctors who are believing in your pain and thinking it may be endo...it takes the average endo sufferer 10 years before they get someone to believe them and see what's going on

2: find a NICE gyno that you can trust, and make an apt asap. I got in with one that was great...but I had an attack when I was out of pain meds this one time and had to see another one, and she thought I was just trying to get drugs, and she was emotionless and made me feel terrible. Having someone on your side early is good!

3: Start looking into your diet! This might sound weird, but after doing a lot of research and testing out with this over the past couple years, I truly believe that we can start to heal our hormones through the foods we eat. Here are two podcast episodes that CHANGED MY LIFE: http://jesslively.com/the-lively-show-talking-plant-based-eating-with-jessica-murnane/, and http://jesslively.com/alisavitti/ please especially listen to the second one...

4: along with that second episode, I read the woman code by Alisa Vitti, and eventually took her online program (flo protocol) to help me start eating with my hormones in mind. While it has been hard for me to do EVERYTHING in the program, it's nice to feel like you have some control over the situation...endo can really make you feel helpless and out of control in so many ways.

5: if you feel like the pain is getting in the way of doing your normal life, do look into getting it out. I went through the cleveland clinic (being here in Cleveland) and was lucky to have the top doctor do the surgery on me. His name is Tomasso Falcone, and he is literally the best in the world. I had to wait a couple months, but I have been 100% pain free since April, and it's been amazing!!! Also, know that there is no way to PROOVE that you have endo until they go in. When they go in, they will see if it's there, and then take out all the lesions. PLEASE make sure whoever you're going through does excision and not ablation. Excision is where they cut it out, and ablation is where they laser it out. I've heard horror stories online from people who did ablation, so I just wanted to let you know that in general.

6: I joined a lot of endo support facebook groups. These are a place where you can go on, and get emotional support and help from others going through similar things. Just knowing people were there who understood was so helpful for me. I wrote on one the day before my surgery, and they were all so helpful on emotionally calming me down.